APRIL 11, 2006:
Ladies, the Lessons in this
series, just over a dozen of them, are posted here in reverse
order. The newer ones are nearer the top of the Page, while the
older ones are of course at the bottom.
In our final talk about the
tongue ... I'd like to mention the "godly" tongue!
One that has already been
"tamed" by the Holy Spirit of God!
One that obeys the clear
admonition of Psalm 34:13. "Keep
thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from speaking guile."
One that seeks to follow Psalm
35:28. "And my tongue shall speak of thy
righteousness and of thy praise all the day long."
And speaking of a "tamed"
tongue, listen to David's word picture. "I
said, I will take heed to my ways, that
I sin not with my tongue: I will keep my mouth with a bridle,
while the wicked is before me." Psalm 39:1
that thinks before it speaks! "My
heart was hot within me, while I was musing the fire burned:
then spake I with my
One that is
eager to talk of the Lord! "My heart is
inditing a good matter: I speak of the things which I have made
touching the king: my tongue is the pen of a ready
writer." Psalm 45:1
tongue ...singing of the Lord's greatness!
"Deliver me from bloodguiltiness, O God, thou God of my
salvation: and my tongue shall sing aloud of thy
righteousness." Psalm 51:14
uplifts God! "I
cried unto him with my mouth, and he was extolled with my
tongue." Psalm 66:17
consistent tongue, not angry one moment and peaceful the next!
Not pouring forth holiness on Tuesday and garbage on Friday!
tongue also shall talk of thy righteousness all the day long:
for they are confounded, for they are brought unto shame, that
seek my hurt." Psalm 71:24
that talks God's Word! "My
tongue shall speak of thy word: for all thy commandments are
righteousness." Psalm 119:172
that is conscious of God's all-seeing eye and all-hearing ear!
Read with me these words from Psalm 139:4.
"For there is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O
LORD, thou knowest it altogether."
ladies, especially for us, a kind tongue!
openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of
kindness." Proverbs 31:26
I pray this
series of Bible Studies prove helpful to you in your Christian
--- Norma Bagwell
APRIL 8, 2006:
Ladies, I'll just call it the
It says the wrong things at
the wrong time!
It often speaks when it should
not, and is silent when it should be talking!
"Discreet" is an adjective
that's derived from the verb "to discern." Something that's
"indiscreet" can not discern as it should!
To "discern" in Latin means
"to sift" ("cernere") "away" ("dis") certain unwanted things!
God's wisdom will give us
discretion, therefore ... discreet tongues!
wisdom entereth into thine heart, and knowledge is pleasant unto
thy soul; discretion shall preserve thee" says Proverbs
Apostle mentions some who lack discernment in their speech.
Incidentally, they are ladies too! "And
withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house
to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies,
speaking things which they ought not." 1st Timothy 5:13
which they ought not!"
dear Lord to teach us what to say ... and when to say it!
stated, pray this prayer. It's not mine! I "borrowed" it
from David the man after God's Own Heart!
"Let the words of my mouth, and the
meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my
strength, and my redeemer." Psalm 19:14
Himself testified how He controlled His words. He did so through
the miracle of Bible prophecy. Notice the phrase:
"that I should know how to speak!"
declares for Jesus: "The Lord GOD hath
given me the tongue of the learned, that I should know how to
speak a word in season to him that is weary: he wakeneth
morning by morning, he wakeneth mine ear to hear as the
and Jesus as our Instructors ... and the Holy Spirit indwelling
us ... discretion should be forthcoming!
--- Norma Bagwell
APRIL 4, 2006:
Some of us complain!
We complain too much!
To complain suggests we are
To complain about the weather
means that we don't feel God did a very good job ordering the
sunshine or rain or wind or whatever!
To complain about our car or
truck must mean that we don't feel the Lord has properly
provided for our needs! Otherwise He surely would have given us
something better to drive!
In fact, to complain about
nearly anything is to disobey Paul's command in Philippians 2:14
where he wrote: "Do all things without
That's an amazing injunction!
Even on the Cross, Jesus did
Saviour, either on the Cross or shortly thereafter, spoke these
words: "The lines are fallen unto me in
pleasant places; yea, I have a goodly heritage."
one word of complaint or bitterness!
examine the nine-fold fruit of the Holy Spirit. Maybe somewhere
in this cluster of spiritual grace we will see complaining.
"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy,
peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness,
temperance ...." Galatians 5:22-23
there that remotely resembles complaining!
that the Holy Spirit is not the Author of our dissatisfaction
does that complaining tongue get its motivation?
He was not
happy in Heaven!
He is not
happy on earth!
certainly will not be happy in Hell!
got a lot of complaining to do! I mean yet in the future!
going to join him and grumble?
Jesus and delight in whatever God brings our way?
decision is a vital one!
all things without murmurings and disputings."
lesson I suspect we all need to learn!
let's "tame" our complaining tongues ... with the Lord's help of
--- Norma Bagwell
APRIL 1, 2006:
Some people perhaps just can't
They always say the most
They are pessimists by nature.
I'm pretty sure Thomas, the
Disciple of Jesus, was often that way.
I believe the Bible
discourages such thinking ... and talking.
See if you see anything
discouraging here: "Finally, brethren,
whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest,
whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are
pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things
are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if
there be any praise, think on these things."
But there's plenty of bright
and cheerful thinking suggested ... in just this one verse!
that God has "gifted" some folks with the ability to uplift and
motivate and encourage others. Thank God for them!
But we ALL
are to "Let our speech be alway
with grace, seasoned with salt, that we may know how we ought to
answer every man." Colossians 4:6
surely knew how to encourage!
He lived by
such verses as Joshua 1:9. "Be strong and
of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be
thou dismayed: for the LORD thy God is with
thee whithersoever thou goest."
words, don't be discouraged!
favorite verse along this line is found in Isaiah chapter fifty.
It is prophetically talking about Jesus. Our Saviour says of His
Father: "The Lord GOD hath given me the
tongue of the learned,
that I should know how to speak a word in season to him that is
weary: he wakeneth morning by morning, he wakeneth mine
ear to hear as the learned." Isaiah 50:4
how to speak a word in season to them who were weary!
better than He, could do that?
He was never once discouraged!
written of Him: "He shall not fail nor be
discouraged, till he have set judgment in the earth: and the
isles shall wait for his law." Isaiah 42:4
By the way,
is someone today discouraged?
with the Lord!
"And David was greatly distressed; for the
people spake of stoning him, because the soul of all the people
was grieved, every man for his sons and for his daughters:
but David encouraged
himself in the LORD his God." 1st Samuel 30:6
ladies, say some encouraging things to those around you!
You will be
obeying Hebrews 13:3, which commands us:
"But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest
any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin."
--- Norma Bagwell
TUESDAY, MARCH 28, 2006:
Proverbs 6:19 lists the person
who "soweth discord among his brethren"
as a particularly wicked person in God's eyes.
That man or woman has a
Proverbs continues with this
information: "A froward man soweth strife:
and a whisperer separateth chief friends." Proverbs 16:28
That tongue, the "whispering"
one, separates long-time friends!
Ladies, do not repeat any
information (gossip really) that could plant distrust and doubt
between the people you know and love.
Instead of tearing friends
apart, we should be "peacemakers." As you well know, Jesus said:
"Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called
the children of God." Matthew 5:9
it may just be best to leave some things unsaid.
knows that strife and division grieve and hinder the powerful
work of God the Holy Spirit.
he, Satan, loves to be "the accuser of the
brethren!" In so doing he can disrupt the harmony
God wants to exist in the His Church.
Do not tell
Sister "A" what Sister "B" said about her! Sister "A" may
not have meant it anyway! In a few day they just may be
"friends" again and their little "rift" healed! You just stay
out of it!
"whisper" bits of slander between two Sisters in Christ.
us from divisive contentious tongues!
instead do what Paul suggests in Hebrews 10:25.
"And let us consider one another to
provoke unto love and to good works."
If we do
that, speak words that promote love and good works, it will be
impossible to speak words that tear asunder!
--- Norma Bagwell
SATURDAY, MARCH 25, 2006:
Our parents used to call them
"know-it-alls!" People who thought they had all the answers ...
and needed to express them too!
Yet Proverbs 12:23 tells
us: "A prudent man concealeth knowledge:
but the heart of fools proclaimeth foolishness."
Ladies, we do not have to
tell everyone we meet everything we know!
At least, not all at once!
Too much talk ... equals
too much sin! The Bible says so! The more one talks ...
the more she will sin! "In the
multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth
his lips is wise." Proverbs 10:19
Don't act like you have all
the answers! "Every prudent man
dealeth with knowledge: but a fool layeth open his
folly." Proverbs 13:16
Proverbs 15:2 will help us here. "The
tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of
fools poureth out foolishness."
observerd: "The words of a wise man's
mouth are gracious; but the lips of a fool will swallow
up himself. The beginning of the words of his mouth is
foolishness: and the end of his talk is mischievous
madness. A fool also is full of words: a man cannot tell what
shall be; and what shall be after him, who can tell him?"
good one too. "Wisdom resteth in the
heart of him that hath understanding: but that which is
in the midst of fools is made known." (Proverbs 14:33) I
can just hear Sister Blabbermouth now! Sharing all her
self proclaimed "wisdom!"
the best verse for those of us who think we are so smart:
"A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise
man keepeth it in till afterwards." Proverbs 29:11
ladies, we know little.
real knowledge we do possess, He gave it to us!
that old devilish attitude of pride and vanity!
Peter said this. They are among his wisest words ever.
"Yea, Lord, Thou knowest!" John
21:15 and 16 and 17
Don't be a
--- Norma Bagwell
WEDNESDAY, MARCH 22, 2006:
Paul called them "busybodies."
we hear that there are some which walk among you disorderly,
working not at all, but are busybodies." 2nd
While this word is
masculine in gender, it surely can describe ladies too!
The verb is spelled "periergazomai"
and fuses "peri," a preposition meaning "around" ... and a verb
"ergazomai," meaning "to work or labor!"
"Working all around" other
These folks are always
delving into other people's affairs, talking incessantly as they
Their favorites words are:
"Have you heard the latest?"
No need to fill in the
blanks! No information is too private!
I just didn't make the line
as long as it should have been!
Here is a
classic description of one: "He that
passeth by, and meddleth with strife belonging not to him, is
like one that taketh a dog by the ears." Proverbs 26:17
If a person
continues to grab dogs' ears ... one of these days he or she
will get the wrong dog! A mean one! One that bites! And
blood will be shed, the busybody's blood!
DO NOT PRY
FOR PERSONAL INFORMATION!
volunteers such, pray for the needs they have shared!
let's mind our own business!
the Holy Spirit led Paul to express it.
"And that ye study to be quiet, and to do
your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we
commanded you." 1st Thessalonians 4:11
busybody's tongue can be tamed too!
By the dear
Norma, what would I then talk about ... if not others?
the goodness of the Lord, His amazing Grace!
God is listening to every conversation!
"Then they that feared the LORD spake
often one to another: and the LORD hearkened, and heard it,
and a book of remembrance was written before him for them that
feared the LORD, and that thought upon his name." Malachi
--- Norma Bagwell
SUNDAY, MARCH 19, 2006:
The dangerous speech we want to
discuss today flows from the flattering tongue!
Ladies, here is a good
definition of flattery. Jude gives it without ever using the
precise word. He's talking about some future false teacher whose
... "mouth speaketh great swelling
words, having men's persons in admiration because of
advantage." Jude 16
To flatter is to say great
and praiseworthy things about someone, things which you really
don't mean, in order to gain their favor or acquire some gift or
recognition from them!
According to Psalm 5:9,
here's the kind of person who generally flatters.
"For there is no faithfulness in their
mouth; their inward part is very wickedness; their throat is an
open sepulchre; they flatter with their tongue."
verb "flatter" here ("chalaq") means to plunder or divide or
apportion! To take the "spoils" of battle!
This does not sound like
friendship, but warfare!
Maybe that's why Proverbs
26:28 teaches us: "A lying tongue hateth
those that are afflicted by it; and a flattering mouth
this insincere form of praise, is lying! And it's
foundation is based upon hatred, not affection! And it
will lead to ruin! The word "ruin" means the state of stumbling
understand, this is different from genuine encouragement and
praise ... words that uplift somebody spiritually.
immoral women are good at flattery too! Prostitutes and
the like! "To deliver thee from the
strange woman, even from the stranger which
flattereth with her words." (Proverbs 2:16 and 7:5)
Here's one of her main weapons: "With her
much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of
her lips she forced him." Proverbs 7:21
Bible's advice about flatterers: "He that
goeth about as a talebearer revealeth secrets: therefore
meddle not with him that flattereth with his lips."
(Proverbs 20:19) Get away from her!
flattery can build pride in a woman's heart ... or a man's!
It is spiritually dangerous! "A man
that flattereth his neighbour spreadeth a net for his feet."
flatterer will soon be discovered and disliked too!
"He that rebuketh a man afterwards
shall find more favour than he that flattereth with the tongue."
to Daniel 11 (3 times) the Anti-christ will be a skilled
eventually, the Lord will deal with the sin of flattery!
"The LORD shall cut off all flattering
lips, and the tongue that speaketh proud things. Who have
said, With our tongue will we prevail; our lips are our
own: who is lord over us?" Psalm 12:3-4
Also let me
mention that the godly Apostle Paul absolutely refused to use
falttery! "For neither at any time used we
flattering words, as ye know, nor a cloke of covetousness; God
is witness, nor of men sought we glory, neither of you, nor
yet of others." 1st Thessalonians 2:5-6
when you need to say something good to someone, say it!
honestly and accurately!
But if you
have to exaggerate and stretch the truth and nearly flatter that
individual, back off!
hurt them spiritually!
might even yourself pick up a bad habit!
possible to even flatter yourself! Look:
"For he flattereth himself in his own
eyes" Psalm 36:2
flattering tendencies you tongue might have developed!
--- Norma Bagwell
THURSDAY, MARCH 16, 2006:
Ladies, today I want us to
consider the "soft" tongue. That's the way the King James Bible
describes it. Twice, in fact ... Proverbs 15:1 and 25:15.
soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up
forbearing is a prince persuaded, and a soft tongue breaketh the
The adjective used for
"soft" is masculine in gender! I guess the men need this
It ("rak" in Hebrew,
according to Strong's Concordance) means "tender" or "gentle."
And at times it can mean "weak!"
I believe what we are being
told here is that with a wise lady, her tongue will NOT
be the strongest part of her constitution.
Have you ever heard of a
person being described as a "big mouth?"
Just that, a "big mouth!"
Obviously he or she also had
ears and eyes and a nose ... but their overbearing mouth grabbed
all the attention!
That kind of mouth is the very
opposite to this "soft tongue" concept!
A soft, submissive, quiet,
tender tongue allows its owner's spirit and mind and heart to
control its utterances!
And such a controlled tongue
... will turn away wrath!
It will ... persuade
people of many things, even in difficult circumstances ...
"breaking someone's bones!"
However ... the area where a
"soft" tongue needs to be "tamed" concerns its being too "soft!"
Too "quiet!" Too "acquiescent!"
There are some times when we
need to stand up and say something!
When Scriptural truth is being
questioned, for example!
Or when the Pastor is being
Or when worldliness is being
Have a "soft" tongue ... most
of the time!
But ... be a compromiser
The Perfect Example of this
discerning Wisdom is Jesus! He said through the Prophet Isaiah,
"The Lord GOD hath given me the tongue of
the learned, that I should know how to speak a word in season to
him that is weary: he wakeneth morning by morning ...."
Jesus received of His Father,
each morning while on earth ... wisdom about "how to speak" that
Surely we should do the same!
--- Norma Bagwell
MONDAY, MARCH 13, 2006:
Today let's talk about the
that hideth hatred with lying lips, and he that uttereth a
slander, is a fool." Proverbs 10:18
This verse associates
slander ... with hatred!
Maybe we only slander those
whom we strongly dislike! That also means that anyone
presently slandering you ... just may hate you also!
Now slander is a strange
It not only means saying
something untrue about someone or just spreading a rumor!
Slander can actually
involve telling the truth about a person, but with the
desire to hurt them!
And Psalm 31:13 suggests
that many are guilty! "For I have
heard the slander of many: fear was on every side."
In the New Testament ... a
Deacon's wife cannot be a slanderer! Such action would
disqualify her husband from serving the Lord, at least as a
Deacon! "Even so must their
wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all
things." 1st Timothy 3:11
In Psalm 101 David tells us
some people he will not tolerate! Included is the man who
"privily slandereth his neighbour.!" Psalm 15:5
The great Apostle Paul was a
victim of slander too! "As we be
slanderously reported, and as some affirm that we say ...."
(Romans 3:8) His words were being "twisted!"
In the wicked days of Jeremiah
slander was common too. "They are
all grievous revolters, walking with slanders: they are
brass and iron; they are all corrupters."
"Take ye heed every one of his neighbour, and trust ye not in
any brother: for every brother will utterly supplant, and every
neighbour will walk with slanders." Jeremiah 9:4
Then we noticed this recently.
The New Testament word for
"slander" is spelled "diabolos." That is the very word for the "devil"
Let me tell you what it means.
"Dia" means "through" something, all the way "through" it!
And "ballo" means "to throw" something! To "slander"
someone is to take an accusation or a lie or a truth that's
slanted to destroy ... and to throw it at a person ... to throw
it all the way through him or her ... to try to destroy her
reputation and testimony!
Ladies, do not be guilty of
If not, you are guilty of
acting just like the devil!
Don't be foolish!
"He (or she) that uttereth a slander, is a
So says the Word of God.
--- Norma Bagwell
today let's talk about the argumentative tongue!
Such a subject should
interest each of us.
Arguing, whether with our
husbands or children or anyone else, is just not the wise course
In fact, Scripture reminds
us that ... "It is an honour for a man to
cease from strife: but every fool will be meddling."
The expression "cease from
strife" employs the root word for "sabbath!" Take a "rest"
... from arguments and contentions!
For a "word picture" that
illustrates the danger of quarreling, read Proverbs 17:14.
"The beginning of strife is as when
one letteth out water: therefore leave off contention, before it
be meddled with."
Once a stream of water
breaks through a dam or a wall or a levy ... it's only a matter
of time until a rupture will occur!
Strife will do the same thing!
While speaking in a different
context, Jesus still taught us:
"Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way
with him." Matthew 5:25
Or as Paul put it:
"Let not the sun go down upon your wrath."
Apparently even in the Church
at Philippi, one of Paul's best ministries, two ladies were
arguing! The Apostle wrote: "Do all things
without murmurings and disputings." Philippians 2:14
Now, nobody is perfect in this
Even Paul and Barnabas had a
problem or two! "And the contention
was so sharp between them, that they departed asunder one from
the other: and so Barnabas took Mark, and sailed unto Cyprus."
The "tongue" wants to assert
To always be right!
But instead of arguing ...
maybe we had best try to ... "be ye kind
to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one
another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."
Probably today, or at least by
tomorrow, each of us will have the opportunity to practice these
To not argue!
What will we do?
Let's pray ... asking the Lord
for help, for deliverance from an argumentative tongue!
--- Norma Bagwell
today I want to discuss with you a problem that is occasionally
called "hastiness" of words.
We often speak too quickly!
thou a man that is hasty in his words? there is
more hope of a fool than of him." Proverbs 29:20
Sounds pretty serious,
My husband tells me that
the word for "hasty" here is one that pictures a person under
"pressure." Someone who is being "squeezed" by the
circumstances of life! And she finally with so much bearing down
on her ... just "bursts" with verbal intensity!
Saying way too much!
Speaking unadvisedly with
Moses did that once, with
dire consequences. See Psalm 106:33.
We need to be careful with our
Proverbs 18:13 warns us:
"He that answereth a matter before
he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him."
Answering too quickly ...
hastiness of words!
Or Solomon, again dealing with
our matter at hand: "Be not rash
with thy mouth, and let not thine heart be hasty to utter any
thing before God: for God is in heaven, and thou upon
earth: therefore let thy words be few." Ecclesiastes 5:2
Don't you here see the
association between speaking too quickly and talking too much?
Even James, the New Testament
Book of Wisdom says: "Wherefore, my
beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak,
slow to wrath." James 1:19
Let's be careful!
We all need Bible help here,
Next time we are about to
"explode" with words ... remember this prayer!
Pray it sincerely unto the
It will be used of the Holy
Spirit in your life!
words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable
in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer."
Let's try it, ladies.
--- Norma Bagwell
FRIDAY, MARCH 3, 2006:
God used the term long before any of us ever thought about it.
James wrote ...
"But the tongue can no man tame;
it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison." James
The verb "tame" is "damazo'
and is only used in the Bible four times.
James is responsible for
75% of those occurrences in two short verses. Count them:
"For every kind of beasts, and of
birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is
tamed, and hath
been tamed of
mankind: But the tongue can no man
tame; it is
an unruly evil, full of deadly poison."
The other time Mark,
describing the Gadarene man who was demon possessed, said:
"Because that he had been often bound with
fetters and chains, and the chains had been plucked asunder by
him, and the fetters broken in pieces: neither could any man
"Lord, help us to be able to
tame our tongues! We realize that is only possible through
the Power of Thy Holy Spirit! May we yield ourselves to
Him for that glorious purpose."
Now the perfect Example for us
all to follow, of course, is Jesus. Quoting Him years
before the Virgin Birth, the Prophet Isaiah wrote:
"The Lord GOD hath given Me the
tongue of the learned, that I should know how to speak a word in
season to him that is weary: He wakeneth morning by morning, He
wakeneth Mine Ear to hear as the
That should be the prayer each
of us lifts heavenward!
"Lord, give me a tongue that
does not gossip or slander or idly chatter on and on! But a
tongue that helps and encourages and uplifts others to better
love and serve Thee! In Jesus' Name, Amen!"
May it be so in our lives!
--- Norma Bagwell
WILLING, I SHALL ADD A NEW "TONGUE" LESSON EVERY THIRD DAY.